Tuesday, May 6, 2008

The Need To Fix

Have you ever felt the need to fix others? Particularly other people who are believers and are ‘supposed’ to do and think a certain way. I think that it isn’t my job to fix people, but just to love them as Father loves them. It’s so easy to see a problem in someone’s life and say, ‘well I can help God fix that problem’. Since when does God need help with His people? Did he have help making this world and us in the first place? I think not! This undying need to fix others is another form of control. It usually renders to the people who ‘need to be fixed’ a sense of shame and guilt that Father wants to get rid of in the first place. The problems I see that I think I could fix can usually make matters worse and cause the problem to become unfixed for the person I am trying to help! It usually backfires and becomes more of a problem than it was in the first place. I am not saying that helping others is a bad thing, but I think if my motives are initially to fix people to have a sense of control does the opposite of what I want to accomplish. Hence the words, “I want”. Where is Father in those words? Has he called me to help? Or did I go on my own accord, and think that it is my job as a Christian to ‘help’. I am not even sure if that job is even mine unless I hear strictly from Father to lend a hand where a human hand is needed. What if the best thing to do is to express to others that you have a concern and all you want to do for them is love them as Father loves them and leave it at that! But can’t I do more than that? Sure I can, but is it really honestly going to do any good? In a lot of cases it won’t. The problem will just become more of a mess than it was initially and I may be even hindering the Spirit from doing his job! It is so easy to get in the way of Father when I have this need to control and fix people. I can hear Him gently saying to me, ‘time to move over Nicole, and let me do what I do best.’ If only it was that easy to just let Father do His thing! Life would be a lot less stressful that’s for sure! :)

2 comments:

Joel Brueseke said...

I think that 'pleasing people' vs. 'loving people' is a great way to differentiate things!

We're never going to be able to please everybody. Even if we were able to love everybody perfectly, we would still never be able to please them all the time. But if we simply rest in Christ and ask Him to love others through us, that's a far greater way to live.

Jesus was God's representation of love to humanity, and He most certainly didn't always please everybody. :) But in Him, we saw love Personified.

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