The Need To Fix

Have you ever felt the need to fix others? Particularly other people who are believers and are ‘supposed’ to do and think a certain way. I think that it isn’t my job to fix people, but just to love them as Father loves them. It’s so easy to see a problem in someone’s life and say, ‘well I can help God fix that problem’. Since when does God need help with His people? Did he have help making this world and us in the first place? I think not! This undying need to fix others is another form of control. It usually renders to the people who ‘need to be fixed’ a sense of shame and guilt that Father wants to get rid of in the first place. The problems I see that I think I could fix can usually make matters worse and cause the problem to become unfixed for the person I am trying to help! It usually backfires and becomes more of a problem than it was in the first place. I am not saying that helping others is a bad thing, but I think if my motives are initially to fix people to have a sense of control does the opposite of what I want to accomplish. Hence the words, “I want”. Where is Father in those words? Has he called me to help? Or did I go on my own accord, and think that it is my job as a Christian to ‘help’. I am not even sure if that job is even mine unless I hear strictly from Father to lend a hand where a human hand is needed. What if the best thing to do is to express to others that you have a concern and all you want to do for them is love them as Father loves them and leave it at that! But can’t I do more than that? Sure I can, but is it really honestly going to do any good? In a lot of cases it won’t. The problem will just become more of a mess than it was initially and I may be even hindering the Spirit from doing his job! It is so easy to get in the way of Father when I have this need to control and fix people. I can hear Him gently saying to me, ‘time to move over Nicole, and let me do what I do best.’ If only it was that easy to just let Father do His thing! Life would be a lot less stressful that’s for sure! :)

Big Religion and Big Government

I am probably going to be stepping on some toes in this post, but I just couldn’t help it. After watching the outcome of Super Tuesday it got me all fired up for some reason. Usually when one talks about religion or politics there is usually smoke in the air from the flames coming from some peoples heads, but if you talk about both, politics and religion in the same conversation, warning, their may be a forest fire starting very soon.

As I use the term (big government) I probably give away that I am a republican and believe in small government vs. government control because I believe that we the people can make decisions on our own without the governments input. It isn’t the government’s responsibility to take that away from the people who have rights to decide what is right for them (us). If we give the government an inch they will take a mile or more and that to me is a real problem and that scares me. I blame my husband for such conviction and thought when it comes to politics because he is a real hardheaded republican and gives it much attention. For a while, I would just sit on the sidelines not really having an opinion or giving it much thought, but my husband influence has driven me to the point of actually writing about politics on my blog (go figure).

Religion can look scary to me as well, it portrays to me bondage that deprives me from the liberty that I can have with God. It’s a certain bondage that doesn’t allow freedom in having a relationship with Father and succumbs to obligation or bondage to any laws that reign or take precedence over sharing a relationship with Father. Religion is all about the “me factor” and how well “I” am doing to gain more points in God’s eye than just being who I am for God without keeping track of points and sins. Religion also portrays a sense of having to be responsible for our fellow brothers and sisters. Having accountability partners so man can keep me inline instead of God and having to take on the responsibility to keep an eye on Christians just in case they slip up.

Religion is a lot like the Federal Government. They both are control freaks. They want to take as much away from a person as they can and declares that “they” know best. They portray a sense of wanting others to have a full dependency of trust in the laws they proclaim to be laws and what is or isn’t illegal. Religion or the Federal Government aren’t looking out for my best interest but in the interest of them and takes all the honor and power away from God. Religion and Government in every turn from this point on has rubbed me the wrong way, and will continue to do so.
How does this rub you?