Have you ever felt the need to fix others? Particularly other people who are believers and are ‘supposed’ to do and think a certain way. I think that it isn’t my job to fix people, but just to love them as Father loves them. It’s so easy to see a problem in someone’s life and say, ‘well I can help God fix that problem’. Since when does God need help with His people? Did he have help making this world and us in the first place? I think not! This undying need to fix others is another form of control. It usually renders to the people who ‘need to be fixed’ a sense of shame and guilt that Father wants to get rid of in the first place. The problems I see that I think I could fix can usually make matters worse and cause the problem to become unfixed for the person I am trying to help! It usually backfires and becomes more of a problem than it was in the first place. I am not saying that helping others is a bad thing, but I think if my motives are initially to fix people to have a sense of control does the opposite of what I want to accomplish. Hence the words, “I want”. Where is Father in those words? Has he called me to help? Or did I go on my own accord, and think that it is my job as a Christian to ‘help’. I am not even sure if that job is even mine unless I hear strictly from Father to lend a hand where a human hand is needed. What if the best thing to do is to express to others that you have a concern and all you want to do for them is love them as Father loves them and leave it at that! But can’t I do more than that? Sure I can, but is it really honestly going to do any good? In a lot of cases it won’t. The problem will just become more of a mess than it was initially and I may be even hindering the Spirit from doing his job! It is so easy to get in the way of Father when I have this need to control and fix people. I can hear Him gently saying to me, ‘time to move over Nicole, and let me do what I do best.’ If only it was that easy to just let Father do His thing! Life would be a lot less stressful that’s for sure! :)
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I am learning how to live loved by God and embrace His grace that will help me fly in freedom. Let the wings of grace take me, all of me, for who I am and not for who I should be.