Saturday, December 27, 2008

Healthy Boundaries Instead of Brick Walls




Finding anything positive in a boundary is hard for me. I have always viewed boundaries as something very negative and offensive when it comes to setting them in friendships or relationships. However, once I started to understand that healthy boundaries are meant to create a healthy balance in relationships opened up windows of new perspective for me. I am dealing with some things right now that involve setting some relational boundaries in my life. These boundaries are not meant to harm or bring destruction into a relationship, rather, it used strictly to communicate that I am not to be taken advantage of and will not be manipulated or controlled because I live my life differently than some. This is probably the hardest thing that I have ever tried to do in my journey with Father. I prayed several times and pleaded with Father to give me another way around this. It is not easy to set boundaries with someone who I was close to. I feel though, that Father is not giving me another way around this and I must face this head on… Boundaries aren’t meant to be set forever, but, until Father releases me to gradually take the boundaries down when it is time. It’s like taking a break in a courtship or dating relationship, but with a friend. I am still a little wheezy thinking about it, but I know in my heart that it has to be done. Please pray for more guidance and continued peace along with this decision. It’s not going to be easy, but I know I can make it through with Father’s help!

7 comments:

Amy said...

Nicole,
My dear friend...I, too, am undergoing having to set boundaries right now with two people I really love. Your post yesterday touched my heart...oh, how I could so relate. Thank you for it. You have no idea what I meant for me. I will be praying for you. Can you do the same for me? I know Papa is with us and will sort this all out, but it's so good knowing we have others thinking and interceeding for us.

Love you, my sweet sister.

Blessings,
~Amy :)
http://amyiswalkinginthespirit.blogspot.com

Manuela said...

It does takes time, but Dad has you firmly and lovingly in his hands! He is working it out in you as he is in me and all of us who are his

Mike said...

You know that I am praying for you and I hope you know that I have the highest confidence that you will do what is right for you and at the right time.

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