Sunday, September 28, 2008

Finding Who I Am Outside Of What I Do

Why do I feel like I have to give an explanation to everyone about how I live my life and what exactly I do? I feel like this pressure to do so is coming from me and not anyone else. Letting the skeleton out of the closet is hard, I guess I feel like it keeps me grounded and real about how I present myself to others, even though no one is demanding or even wanting an explanation of what I do.

1 Corinthians 6:12

Everything is permissible for me but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me but I will not be mastered by anything.

I love this scripture because it points to several important facts; whatever I do does not make me, it is not a part of who I am. Just like a job or a career. I will not take my job with me when I die, nor will I take what I do here on earth with me either. Also, it will not overtake or master me. Now, I have done some pretty dumb things in my life as I am sure pretty much everyone has, but I don’t think that what we do will surpass who we are or become who we are. I remember when I was a nanny, Emma and I would drive past a prison on our way to this children's art studio, and almost every time we would pass the prison she would say, ‘bad people live there’. I would tell her that I believe that the person isn’t bad but their choices that they have made were bad and now they have to pay the consequences and go to ‘time out’ for a long time sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that the person themselves are exactly bad, but what they choose to do. Why do people focus on what other people do instead of on their hearts and other good upright things they do? Why does it seem like evil always has a spotlight on it and we never get to see the good people do? It’s like the news stations. The news media always puts a spotlight on the bad in the world, such as, the crisis of the economy, the hurricanes, destruction, death, and evil people do. The old saying goes, ‘good news isn’t news’. That’s how most of us were trained to observe the human race; we put people into categories and put labels on them based on what they ‘do’ even when we don’t know them.


mike ege said...

Hi Nicole,
We really have become a race of human doings, not human beings. We judge and define each other by outward actions rather than by the heart. We are all both sinner and saint. I wonder how much better the world would be if we were to call out the good in each other - especially those times when we can't see the good in ourselves? Imagine a friend who only notices the value in who you are. Wow, what a friend to have! Nicole, you choose to look at the value in people. I think that makes you a rare and Christ-reflecting woman! Way cool!

Amy said...

Ahhh...I know exactly what you mean! This post of yours was encouraging...(as I think you know why).

I loved what you said here: "Why do people focus on what other people do instead of on their hearts and other good upright things they do?"

Indeed, it seems our culture (and world) has pretty much taught for people to look only to what people do, rather than the heart. Religion only enhances this message.

I loved your connection of this dynamic with the media. Indeed, only the dramatic and "bad" that continues to be fed out to everyone. It's all a money-driven, whatever-sells, whatever-works mentality. What drives it, unfortunately, is that people keep watching, buying into it all. They are driven to do so from a spirit of the Opposer or their Old Evil Hearts (in the case of a Christ-follower).

"...we put people into categories and put labels on them based on what they ‘do’ even when we don’t know them."

Sigh...yep. Humanity, when "inspired" under a spirit of evil...likes to catagorize, put things into boxes, label, order, structure, rigidity and conformity. Hmmm...sounds a lot like Religion too, eh?!

Walk strong my sweet sister. I love you for YOU!!! Regardless of whatever you do...whatever your occupation/career. I know your heart, and IT IS GOOD!

Great post, Nicole.

~Amy :)

Bino M. said...

Could it be good people doing bad things?

Nicole said...

Yes, Bino you hit the nail on the head. I believe that there are a lot of good people out there that just make rotten choices just like me I guess.

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